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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don’t be arrogant in your interview.

Remember you are essentially a new college grad with no experience and out of date skills.

[b]Don’t mention you have kids because after SAH it’s clear your h has no interest in being involved in the kids lives so they will assume you will take off every time they are sick.[/b]

Say you took time to care for a dying aunt.[/quote]

This. Here’s my bias as a working mom:

1. You don’t really want to work 
2. You didn’t value your career 
3. You don’t have a spouse who does his share at home 
4. Your spouse is now used to you doing everything and all sick days will fall on you 
5. You’ll talk about your kid all the time because it’s been your life and you don’t understand other people don’t care about your kids anymore than someone’s pet or vacation [/quote]

Exhibit A as to how terribly women treat other women.  [/quote]

Yup.  I work in a male dominated field and it’s been a breeze getting time off whenever I need even to *gasp* care for children!  They also don’t mind me talking about my kids and even talk about their own kids, if you can imagine it.

My boss even let me go part time when I requested it, even though my “excuse” was simply that I wanted more time with my kids.

So advice for the “biased” working mom: get that chip off your shoulder and stop acting like an AH.[/quote]

Interesting point. I’ve had two phases to my career, both in male-dominated industries.  Both have been family-friendly and understanding to moms and dads when childcare needs have arisen or for me when I wanted to scale back to part-time.  [b]I think women can be prone to treat other women horribly[/b], and I’ve seen the most obnoxious statements on the issue here on dcum. [/quote]

Agree. I have seen the same in my workplaces. The female bosses have been horrible bosses and mentors to junior women. [/quote]

Actually no.
Just the insecure women.
Your comments are clear examples of how women like to tear down other women.
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C’mon. Look at the statements in this thread. It’s clear some women will treat other women in the workplace horribly.  The best bosses I’ve had have been women, and the worst bosses I’ve had have been women. [/quote]

But is it really treating someone horribly to not view a woman taking time off from work in a positive way? I’m really not allowed to acknowledge that she likely has a spouse who is used to her doing everything including handling all sick days?

You and some other PPs are attributing it to treating other women horribly and our gender.

I’m not basing it on gender.  I think anyone who was a stay at home parent for almost a decade is likely not that interested in working and has a spouse who is used to them doing everything at home.  Anecdotally every SAHM I know wants to be at home with children.  [/quote]

No, you actually aren’t allowed to think any of this, and you certainly aren’t allowed to let it influence or dictate your hiring decisions.  Two major reasons: 1) you don’t know any if any of your assumptions are true, and 2) it’s absolutely none of your business anyway.

[b]You know how you can *definitively* tell if someone who was a stay at home parent for a decade is interested in working?  If they’re sitting in the room with you INTERVIEWING [/b]FOR A JOB.[/quote]

I guess. I’ve known many SAHMs who reluctantly return to work and don’t have any real interest in working. You even see the posts on here of women wanting very part time or WFH jobs. They don’t want to actually have a career.

OP kind of proves this point. She thinks other women might be JEALOUS of her for staying home. She thinks staying home is better.

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[b]IT DOES NOT MATTER what she or anyone thinks about being a stay at home mom.  She is ACTIVELY looking for a job NOW.  That indicates she wants to work NOW, even if she didn’t want to work five years ago.[/b]

Does the existence of your retirement account mean that you’re not interested in working?  After all, you’re saving up money for the explicit purpose of leaving your job!  So how devoted could you really be?[/quote]

But what changed?  I just don’t see how a woman who stayed home for many years all of a sudden becomes a person focused on their career.

Regarding retirement, the thinking is that eventually you are physically or mentally unable to work. 
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