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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some of us were at the top of our class and smartest in the room in high school and college, and still wound up pretty average adults.

The people I went to school with who were more average as teenagers generally live nicer lives than I do because they stayed in our small LCOL hometown near their families and bought houses near lakes in their 20s. Meanwhile here I am in DC, going back for a week in the summer....[/quote]

Interesting! I don’t think living in a small town even if one owns a house is preferential to being in the middle of things to be honest. I am somewhat like you - my peers who stayed in our hometown have become big fish in that pond and own real estate and such while I moved to a HCOL area and don’t own a house. However it’s just… there’s no comparison, I’d never trade with them.

I think there’s nothing wrong with being average as an adult. I just would like to see him being “one of the best” in one situation or another. [/quote]

I think the thing is that I decided as an adult when I met my husband that I really value work-life balance and wasn't willing to work crazy hours, live apart from my family, etc. But to be able to afford a decent lifestyle "in the middle of things" you do need to be extremely ambitious and willing to move frequently, at least in my field, and that's just not the life I want to live. I don't miss my small town specifically, I was happy to leave it, but i miss the more relaxed lifestyle of living in a LCOL area near family.

Sometimes being "the best" doesn't actually line up with what you want in life. And I think for your kid, it's more important to know his values and follow them than to win a trophy at anything. Maybe not having any fixations and being mellow will help him do that. [/quote]

For me, the fact of living in an area where things happen is important per se. I was able to carve out a lifestyle I like, though many people think one has to be rich to live in a HCOL area.

For my son, I was hoping school would be relatively easy for him to be better than others in at least one subject. But apparently it’s not the case. He gets high reading comprehension scores but[b] there’s no award for it,[/b] or maybe others have even higher ones, idk

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Why do you care so much about awards? [/quote]

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