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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a DW who makes less than her spouse ($350 vs $190), I would never want to be in a position that I’m not contributing to the family HHI for a number of reasons. [/quote]

What if 1 spouse is making $1 million and the other is making $50k? They're still contributing, but it doesn't matter much. [/quote]

The $50k is immaterial, and probably actually detrimental to the family, but the[b] $50k spouse is probably selfish[/b] and wants to do it. [/quote]

Would you say the same thing if the spouse is instead spending 10K on a hobby instead of making 50K on it instead?

Most people would probably think, "your family is making 1M a year, surely you can spend 10K a year and enjoy yourself."  But doing something you enjoy that also makes your family 50K a year?  That's the thing that's selfish, sure.[/quote]

If you are spending 40+ hours/week on said hobby and expecting your breadwinning spouse to take on a greater portion of childcare/sick day coverage/transport to activities etc, so that you can participate to that level then yes it’s equally selfish. [/quote]

How many breadwinners do you know have the following mindset: "I'm so happy I can make all this money so my other half can become a personal Uber driver for our children rather than having a job they find fulfilling"?[/quote]

Quite a few want a WIFE (similar to the way they collect cars or other things) to stay home and look after his kids (also viewed like a collectable item).  Having a good life with a SAHW is a status symbol.  So long as the wife keeps up her end of the bargain-  always be beautiful, calm, put together, thin, never age, only produce perfect children, be a gracious host, organize everything, be totally deferential, never have a loud or controversial opinion, etc.[/quote]

Did you learn this trope from TikTok?  Why would any rich person want a totally deferential spouse when their life is surrounded by yes men, since the rich person is likely everyone's boss, have people fawning over them for being successful, and have secretaries and assistants that they can already boss around?  Do you really think what a rich person wants the most is a maid for a spouse?

And why would any woman agree to this bargain?  There's no point to being rich if you have to ask your husband for every little thing because you have to be totally deferential.  You're literally enslaving yourself to live on a pretty plantation.[/quote]

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