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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it is a little unusual to single one person out of a group activity to have them audition to be your friend and to do it at a reservation type restaurant. I am not surprised she brought a couple more people from the group. I probably would too as it is an odd way to make friends and I would be thinking are they trying to date me?

If a get together naturally and organically happens, great but this exclusive only you and me and no one else approach is weird in itself. Usually people from activities go out in groups and friendships form organically from there. Not via an assessment of are we a match?[/quote]

I don't think it's weird to invite one person from a team or activity out for a 1:1 hangout if you think you might hit it off as friends. That seems normal to me. It's fun to hang out as a group, but if I wanted to get to know someone better or thought we might have stuff in common separate from the team, I think this is totally normal.

It would also be normal for that person to be like "oh yes, fun, would you mind if I invited Kelly and Jen too -- I had been talking to them about getting together after practice sometime." I know it's not what OP had in mind but I think this would be a perfectly normal thing to do.

What I think is weird is agreeing to go hang out with someone one on one and then calling the restaurant and adding two people to the reservation and then showing up with these two extra people without even mentioning to the person who invited you out that you were doing this. This strikes me as very strange![/quote]

But who is to say it was that formal? For all we know OP just asked her to get a beer after practice and hang out for a bit.[/quote]

We know it was more formal because OP made a reservation, and the other woman had to call and change the reservation in order to accommodate the other people she wanted to invite. It was specifically the woman's decision to call and change the reservation OP made that OP found weird (and I agree that is weirdly forward and presumptuous).[/quote]

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