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Both of our DC's are college students.  They are now home for the summer.

Both of them have summer jobs, and are mostly pretty considerate people.  Our DD is not particularly nice to me (the mom), but is generally a considerate person.  They are responsible and hard-working.

I wish that they saw their friends during normal hours, but it seems like our DC's insist that their friends mostly want to get together between 9 pm and 2 am.  To keep the peace, I do not comment on that.

However, I have asked that they observe quiet hours from 12 am to 5 am because I am a light sleepover.  I need to be able to concentrate at work.  When they arrive home at 2 am, I hear them and so I wake up.  I try to just roll over and go back to sleep, but I have a lot of trouble falling back to sleep.  (When I was younger, I could just roll over and fall back to sleep.  But now that I am in my early 50's, I find that I am basically awake once I am awaken after 12 midnight.  I use a white house machine, and the Calm app to get back to sleep.

My DC's have said that it's "controlling" of me to ask them to observe quiet (non-moving) hours from 12 am to 5 am.  [b]My own mom (in her 80's) seems to side with my two DC's stating that they need to be able to have their fun in the summer with their friends, and that I should just use a rain machine (and ear plugs) to avoid waking up.[/b]

Any advice?  [/quote]

Does she have a tendency to downplay your needs? Do you actually care what other people think if you're the one who is suffering most and you have the power (money and authority as a parent) to control the situation?

This would not fly in my house, OP. I have trouble sleeping, my house is small and every noise is heard everywhere. My family knows to keep the noise down and if it means not coming in after midnight, that's what they do. There is no rule that says every college kid has to stay out at night. Plenty don't do that. I am SO not receptive to "but everyone's doing it!". Yeah. I shut that down in middle school!

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OK, do you want your children to come home today with you, or not? Because if your can't compromise to live together, they can go live somewhere else. [/quote]

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