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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Add in pre-conceived thoughts about plus ones into the mix. Lots of guests feel they are obligated a plus one. Same with kids. I am sure everyone who hates this cover your plate concept would also say how dare you not give me a plus one or let my kids come.

As with everything, it is know your crowd. If your crowd is NY with a [b]cover your plate culture[/b], do it. If your crowd isn’t, then great! Dont cover your plate. If you want to save face because you care about what your host might socially think, and if you can afford it, be generous. The PP who said don’t overthink it and go $250 per head is right. Give north of $250 if you can. Again, thats per person so double up. [/quote]

"Cover your plate" isn't a culture thing.  It's about relationships being transactional, pure and simple.  It's about calculating the cost/benefit of celebrating a life event.

[i]Ok, so I spent $442 at Costco on appetizers and wine for Jim's party, and there were 23 guests ... but Kate is gluten-free so probably didn't eat any of the crackers, so subtract her.  22 guests. Mark and Stacey brought a $42 gift (I google'd it), which is about right for breaking even, but Diane's $12 bottle of wine leaves her $8 short on covering her plate, which is so embarrassing for her, but whatever, maybe she overpaid at that fancy liquor store.  On the other hand, Carol and Jeff brought that huge floral arrangement so we probably covered our costs plus a little extra with them. [/i]

People are awful.[/quote]

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