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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just send her your menu and ask what you should have on hand for her to eat that she can quickly pull together for herself on the days she won’t eat the stuff you are making. [/quote]

These suggestions are getting ridiculous. This might make sense for a 4 year old following a strict diet for serious health reasons but this is an adult. Capable of ordering food, grocery shopping, planning ahead, or just eating 2 bites of something offered like every other grown adult that doesn’t care for the menu choice.
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2 bites.  She’s not eating enough as it is and you want to starve her.  No, be a good host. [/quote]

She's starving herself. Let's assign responsibility accurately here. [/quote]

First. No matter what OP does this visit she’s not going to change her sister nor her parents. So she can choose to make a big deal out of it or just quietly provide the kitchen space or appropriate food options.

Second. Are people who are keto, or carnivore, or vegan, etc. starving themselves? I’m curious if OP’s sister has an actual diagnosed eating disorder or is just - like MANY here - very restricted in order to stay skinny and OP has themselves diagnosed the sister.

Lots of people don’t eat red meat, dairy, bread, etc. and I wouldn’t jump to “eating disorder.” Half the people I know have various restrictions and diets; they’d all have an ED under that logic. [/quote]

To your first statement, the op doesn’t need to change her sister. People are simply saying that she doesn’t have to feed into it nor change herself for her sister. 
You are wrong. [/quote]

Even if I agree with you, which I largely do, I still don't think that no accommodation whatsoever is the right choice in this instance.

I would throw a piece of salmon on the grill, allow sister to bring some food, or even fry an egg NOT because I want to enable her.  But rather because I want to have the best experience *for myself*.
The almost certain outcome of not allowing those things is a lot of drama, headache, or certain family not attending.  Assuming OP's goal is to have the most enjoyable experience for herself during the event and after, and assuming that it matters at all to OP and other guests to have parents and sister in attendance, the right call is to accommodate.[/quote]

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