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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DCUM skews VERY conservative when it comes to relationships, OP.

My line is: no evidence that can be used against you, against your wife and kids, and against the close friends in your life.

This means in practice: no sex. If you do it, you can always be found out if someone is on your trail. There is always a trail.

But not just that: no appearance of sex. No hanging out in hotels, no romantic dinners just the two of you, no coming and going at either of your homes, nothing that can be caught by a PI and spilled in public as "evidence".

You are free to have a crush on her and she on you. Anything that doesn't scream "they're together!" is allowed.

But no evidence. 
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In other words, stay away. [/quote]
Not concervative at all:)[/quote]

DCUM is "conservative" about such things in the sense that many people on the Relationship Forum seek to shame and guilt everyone into socially acceptable behavior. But seeking to impose your flavor of morality on others is ineffective, and ultimately rude and offensive. Who are you to tell others how to think?

However, reminding people of the practical fallout of certain decisions is a lot more effective. I don't judge OP, or anyone else who has a physical or emotional affair. Why would I throw stones? I know nothing about their lives and what they've gone through. I am here to warn them of all the potential harm that could come to their children, their friends, their relatives, their spouses, their affair partner, and themselves, if the public finds out, and a boss fires someone, playdates dry up, a move becomes necessary, or suddenly your household income cannot stretch to all your previous luxuries because it now has to support two separate households.

Proceed with caution. You don't want to shoot yourself in the foot. 
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