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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I know I should be happy I found the love of my life who happens to have good hygiene. I once went on a couple of dates with a guy who said he showered once a week tops. I just wish he was more a little more relaxed about hygiene. I don’t mind that he showers or that we change the sheets often. I just don’t want him pestering me about showering before bed.

I love him and adore him but I do feel that this can lead to a breakup if he keeps [b]passively aggressively making comments[/b] or keeps [b]pestering me[/b] about it. [/quote]

The bold, OP, re-read the bold above. Your own words. The issue is not showers; the issue is that he wants you to do what he wants, and is needling you with passive aggression. And I'm betting you've asked, and then told, him to stop, and he doesn't, does he? He is convinced He. Is. Right. This is a red flag trait if you want to have kids together.

Sit down and please think very hard about whether there are other little things, seemingly smaller than the big issue of showers, about which he tends to feel he is right and you are wrong. Things you do one way and he seems...displeased, or condescending, about it. Even if he make a "joke" of it. Other examples of passive-aggressive digs at you. Or at other people. How does he speak about coworkers or bosses? His friends, siblings, family? I'm wagering that if you really think about it, you're going to realize there is a pattern of his feeling he and his choices are superior. A pattern of snarky commentary and passive aggression. Seriously, sit down and make notes just for yourself.

Next: Picture how he would be as a father. If you and he have children together, how do you think he'll deal with babies and toddlers with blowout poop diapers? Messed up crib and bed sheets when a kid is sick and vomits in bed? Kids who don't pick up after themselves and resist baths and showers at times, because, well, kids? He may be the love of your life but will you be back here in 10 years, posting about how he is passive-aggressive with the kids and he wants them to be clean little adults? [/quote]

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