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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They also get messages from consent training.  My son has mentioned several times that it's "gross" for seniors to date freshmen.  That used to be unstigmatized in my generation.  Even if it was rare.  [/quote]

Consent training for boys is really crucial (as is explicit consent, of course).

Fortunately consent training is commonplace now in the DMV and that’s a very positive development.  Consent must be clear and completely unambiguous; there is zero room for error.

At the same, I feel as if some boys could possibly get the wrong message, and just conclude “why bother?”[/quote]

What a weird mixed message for girls. It infantilizes them while everything else is shouting girl power and girl boss.[/quote]

A friend’s son in MS was accused in school of “assault” by a girl because he touched her upper arm once while they were having a conversation in the lunchroom.

The girl went to a teacher and explained she had not consented to having her upper arm briefly touched, and per the recent consent training, didn’t that count as a sexual assault?  The whole thing blew up at school; parents called, etc.

But the real damage followed when the kids went wild on social media on their phones, and they really did a number on the boy and his reputation.  Good luck recovering from that.[/quote]

This also happened to a girl my son is good friends with. A boy made up a story she “assaulted” him by trying to kiss him even though multiple people said there was no attempt of a kiss and it never happened. But gossip and social media went rampant and she was deemed a rapist by the end of the week. Luckily a few of his friends came forward and he retracted everything and was also given harassment/bully forms in school and juvenile charges as stalked her and was charges were pressed. But she kept quiet while going the police route and her reputation never recovered. It’s “fun” to create gossip and stories.

So it happens to both sides. It’s not just boys getting accused. [/quote]

In the first instance the boy did touch her.  Granted you all can shrug it off but, it is different than the second.[/quote]

A boy touching a girl’s arm is NOT assault. Tweens/Teens throw this word around like candy. [/quote]

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