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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]6 months is not that long. It was 7 years without—in my 30s—before I divorced. No way my marriage worked from the beginning and no chance.

Yes, yours seems not bad enough for divorce. Yes, it can be saved. [/quote]

Only if it is a goal shared by OP's spouse.

And if OP's spouse chooses to exit, delusions about "I won't give up time with my kids" is moot, court will order 5050 even if spouse is having an affair. OP has VERY little control re: life and family life moving forward is the reality.

OP, get your ducks in order financially and consult with a lawyer. In case your spouse files first you don't want to be blindsided. [/quote]

I just find it shocking that people are jumping to “can this marriage be saved” when they’re only has been a lack of intimacy for six months only out of all these years; it’s kind of ridiculous. It sounds like low tea or midlife crisis to me or something else or even a health condition or even erectile dysfunction.

It goes without saying, of course, both people have to wanna save it to have it be saved, but the general question of “can this marriage be saved?” is off…of course it can…Everybody knows it takes two people to save it.) this is not a post where there are dealbreaker, toxic problems that are long-term or something where people would assume of course it can’t be saved. It’s the opposite. This seems like a speed bump and maybe it’s not but I’m just surprised at the description in the post thinking it’s that dire after just six months of things being different. [/quote]

So have you and your spouse gone more than 6 months without ever touching each other? Not even a hug?

And did your spouse essentially ignore you during those 6 months?

Zero happy conversations.

Just short responses to questions. Only engaging on a need to know parenting or house-related item.

I’m not talking about an otherwise happy or decent situation that simply lacks sex.

And, in hindsight, it’s been a few years of what feels like a slow roll towards the bottom.

If you have btdt, then please tell me how you improved the marriage. That’s why I posted. [/quote]

[b]Yes…for 7 out of 10 YEARS (no affection, no talking, no dates, no sex, no hugs, no relationship): I got divorced at year 10.[/b] I was not talking about just sex either. 6 months of a lack of relationship is not that long…when you get to 1.5 or 2 years with no improvement, that is when it is a death spiral.

Also, this could be a health issue: get a full work up including testosterone levels. Also, see a neurologist…behavior changes can be a brain tumor.

[b]Jumping to the idea is divorce after only six months is mind boggling. [/b][/quote]

Staying in your situation for 10 YEARS is mind-boggling. [/quote]

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