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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Before I logged on to DcUM, I just got off the phone with the ped’s office trying to get an earlier appointment for an anxiety med, after meeting with the therapist earlier this week, during an appointment that I made, based on emails that I exchanged with her (largely screenshots of text exchanges I had with my kid about her anxiety surrounding some exams….).

I told DW the where and when of the appointment.

Some of you are just blind to the fact that many dads are not as checked out as yours husbands are.

“ What I do hear constantly is women who are judged as being bad moms for working AND other moms who are judged for being lazy because the SAH.”

If you’re still butthurt about mommy war BS, you need to grow up. And newsflash, all that judgment comes exclusively from other women. When are you ever going to learn to ignore it? [/quote]

+1.  To the women of DCUM:  on the eternal and nasty SAHM v. WOHM cage match, the call is coming from inside the house.  That is all woman-on-woman mean girl BS.  Stop blaming men for that.[/quote]

Sorry about your reading comprehension skills. The PP was actually specifically arguing AGAINST the WOHM v. SAHM debate. That was the whole point of her comment -- "women who are judged as bad moms for working AND other moms who are judge for being lazy because they SAHM." Her point is that neither judgment is fair and yet they get thrown at women all the time because no woman is ever judged to be doing enough. It's an anti-mommy wars stance, arguing in favor of cutting women some freaking slack (the way we cut men slack all the time).[/quote]

Judgment thrown by whom?  It’s not the MEN who aren’t willing to cut women “some freaking slack.”[/quote]

Sometimes it is. But yes, men have pulled a cool trick where they outsource a lot of patriarchy to women. Men can sit there and say "omg stop judging each other over working or being a SAHM, you are all soooo mean to each other." But then when their wives work, they still expect them to do more than half of the chilcare/housework. And when the SAHM, well "I was actually working all day, I shouldn't have to be cooking and cleaning in the evening."

The judgments women heap on each other come directly from a culture that says men should not have to do "women's work," and that paid work is more important than unpaid labor in the home. The only reason it's even possible for women to snipe at each other over WOHM v. SAHM is because of those cultural expectations.[/quote]

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