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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I’m not looking for a meal ticket.

Age: I’m 29 and he’s 30.

Salary: I make base of $180k but can go up to $230k if I work OT. He makes $80k and his salary will not increase.

Outlook: I’m not sure if I would ever stay home but I want the option to take a couple of years off to raise my kids while they’re young.

I grew up in a large family where we didn’t have a lot of extra money. My dad was the sole provider while my mom took care of us. We couldn’t partake in after programs or extra curricular activities because we didn’t have the expendable income to cover it. I had to work 60 hour weeks and delay college so that I could save up and not take out so many student loans. I didn’t finish my degrees until 23 and 27 because of it.

I want to provide my kids with the opportunities I didn’t have. I want them to be able to partake in any activities they want, go on a family vacation, and pay for their college.

I’ve only ever dated men that have matched my salary or made more. It’s a new territory for me. [/quote]

Then you will need to work or have him be a SAHD.  Your mom chose to stay at home and look at how you suffered.  By working and being married to the man of your dreams will reap rewards to your future children.

But you really do want a meal ticket, if you are wanting to retire in the next few years and pop out kids.  Just admit it and let this man find a woman that will love all of him.  [/quote]

He’s not the man of her dreams though.

It sounds like you’re weirdly invested in gaslighting her into becoming HIS mealticket. If she stays with this guy she’d be the breadwinner and she’d be the default parent carrying all the stress of pregnancy and the mental load of raising a family.

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We're all just shooting the breeze here but your friends in real life are not going to take you seriously when you call everything "gaslighting".[/quote]

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