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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's the thing: OP is stuck - if she marries BF, she will resent him for the rest of her life becacuse he doens't make enough. If she dumps him and marries someone making $400K and lives a life of material wealth, for the rest of her life, she'll pine for her one true love.

Given that OP is so materialistic, she screwed herself over by falling in love.[/quote]

OP here. I’m not materialistic. I don’t buy fancy things, I don’t own any brand name clothes, and I don’t care about fancy vacations. I do care about living a comfortable life and giving any future children the opportunities I never had. [/quote]

OP I previously replied and I’m very much like you (only my husband and I both grew up very comfortably.) there is nothing wrong with your priorities. You might just be the one bringing in the lions share of the income.

I would sit your boyfriend down and have a talk. I did the same thing with my now DH. In our twenties, he had NO CLUE what raising a family cost. Childcare, activities, clothing, help if your kid has special needs (which one of ours does), housing, home maintenance, day camp… it was a rude awakening for him. While it was a point of contention for a long time, his income has increased significantly. I’m not quitting my job, which as I mentioned previously, was not what I imagined with young kids, but we both compromised. I would be honest with your boyfriend about the life you envision and ask what he envisions. Regardless of what you decide, you want to go into engagement knowing each other and your desires well. [/quote]

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