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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is American culture so anti-children? It is so bizarre to me that people have issues with children being a part of life. [/quote].

I don’t think it’s American culture. It’s economics. Families don’t think about consequences of having so many kids.

They don’t think “Oh, I’ll never be alone with my husband again or any other adult, I’ll not be able to attend weddings, concerts and other events. I won’t afford college. I won’t be able to afford vacations that involve flying.”

A French woman would never think of herself as a package with all her kids. I can’t imagine who in Europe would.  It’s a psychological problem if one doesn’t see the boundaries between persons.

Parents have their own lives and children have their own lives. Parents don’t have to sit through children parties and children don’t need to attend adult events.  In America you just can’t afford it.[/quote]

You are clearly obsessed with money and don’t have the wisdom that comes with age. Children don’t stay young forever. It’s a phase. And you are making extreme points that don’t allow for nuance. Just because a family doesn’t use a babysitter often doesn’t mean they never use one.

I have a small family now but grew up in a large one. I’m glad my parents instilled their values in us where family and love were more important than money and things. We weren’t poor but we didn’t have excess and we learned the art of sharing and also were accidental environmentalists because we reused everything or reduced in the first place. And if my parents spent some years not going out very often, they made up for it after we were older and had a grand time. [/quote]

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