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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP -- I haven't read all the responses, but I totally get where you're coming from. His success is not your success. You shouldn't have stopped working, but now you have to live with that. Just remember this when you're giving young women/your daughter advice. [/quote]

Exactly!  Just remember to let your kids know that you regret spending so much time with them (even though you had more than enough money to do so) because they’re not worth bragging about at a college reunion the way some job you didn’t need would be…[/quote]

Facts are in these setups with one power earner and one SAHP,[b] one person gets to have all the parts of themselves fulfilled (intellect, personal ambition, career, parent, spouse) and the other one does not[/b].   This is fine if the SAHP genuinely does not have the sam level of personal ambition, but shaming people who do (which you are doing) also sucks.  It's not about bragging.  Women and men are allowed to value a career and personal accomplishments.  Or not.  This particular poster with what she is saying to us, she's not happy with her decision in the end.  Which is allowed and isn't about anyone else but her.

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Is work really that fulfilling?  My husband is a high earner and would quit in a heartbeat if his employer stopped paying him.

A lot of posters on here overly glamorize and emphasize career success like it’s really that meaningful.

I’ve had a successful career but still wouldn’t feel unfulfilled if I’d stayed home with kids.  [/quote]

But we’re not talking about everybody we’re talking about OP, She clearly feels unfulfilled. She needs to take credit for her husband‘s work to feel fulfilled[/quote]
Grandmothers used to say things like “The grass isn’t greener on the other side” when these sort of wistful reveries pop up.

Just because OP feels [unclear—whatever other posters have projected onto her?] when she runs into an old classmate or pokes around on social media doesn’t mean it’s true. [/quote]

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