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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. I did wait to tell my parents, but finally told them after we got the report. I didn't feel I could keep it from them since they do help care for her from time to time and experience some of her rigidity and inflexibility. Thankfully, when we told them we had already had several weeks to process the diagnosis (and of course start getting services in place, lest anyone assume I was just sitting at home stressing about how my mother would react lol).

My mother's reaction was in line with what I thought it might be, but it still took me a little off guard. At first, she insisted she had suspected it or something, then later fessed up she felt bad that she didn't see it before. She also initially started going on about our parenting and the fact that DD doesn't have a sibling. She was basically just processing things out loud. My dad seemed really sad (in his stoic way). Which I get, though I hope he comes to see that it is not as dire as he probably thinks.

We shared the report with them to help them get questions answered, though I wonder if that was the right choice since it is quite technical. But I think my dad really needed it. My mother did criticize the report because she lacked the context we have of working with the psychologist.

I think if I had told them while I was still processing it, I would have really struggled with my mother's reaction. She hasn't said anything yet about us not telling her earlier, and I don't think she will. I think she knows we haven't been telling her everything right away, and maybe that makes her anxious, but oh well, she has a therapist to talk to about that.[/quote]

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