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[quote=Anonymous]Whats your plan in a couple years when your mom tells your kid all this stuff?   You need therapy. Btw, I grew up with a mom like yours. After I had DS, I really realized her toxicity. I didn't want DS to be threatened, manipulated, yelled at, and be called names. Nor did I want him to hear her say things about me or DH.  I also had the same concern about my dad, who was sick and definitely wouldn't be able to see me without her.

After a particularly brutal exchange with her, I told her to either get therapy or DS wasn't allowed around her and the only reason I would see her was because of my dad. I got therapy. She refused for about 6 months (she was adamant she didn't have a problem). During those 6 months, I saw them solo. If she acted up, I left.  She finally got therapy and meds and when I saw positive results, I brought DS around more. My dad died when DS was 6 and I think it was a wake up call to my mom.  He's 11 now and has done pretty much a 180 from her behavior when I was a kid. My own work in therapy helped me learn how not to escalate things too. DH tolerates her.  He was very protective of me in the years before therapy and I think he has had a hard time fully forgiving her [/quote]

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