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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I read these kinds of threads, I always wonder about the time when you first started dating. Were these guys living in their parent’s basement or on their own? If on their own, was their apartment relatively clean and were their bills paid? Once married, did you make their life too easy and now they are in lazy mode? How did your situation start?[/quote]

I’m confused by your confusion.  They mask.  All crappy partners “mask.”  Alcoholics, addicts, rage-aholics, sex addicts, and perennial losers.  They keep it together for as long as they need to and once they feel comfortable, the real them comes out.[/quote]
No one can “mask” being a loser. That would require high sociopathic intelligence and willful deception. If he’s a failure to launch bum, he is almost certainly not that smart or sophisticated.

The whole thing about failure to launch is it is immediately visible, ie. still living in mom’s basement, holding down menial jobs etc. (NOT being a GS 14, wth?)[/quote]

All the failure to launch types I know failed to launch because they never had to. Either extremely wealthy or enabled by parents who could support them. They are smart, well-read, well-traveled, well-educated, own homes and usually work at something in a casual way that doesn't bring in much money. 
I should know, since I'm one of them. [/quote]

Good for you.

All the FTL 20-50 yos we know have unmanaged adhd or aspergers. Many of their parents do as well so they can’t figure it out.

Right now one was gifted a bunch of rental properties because he can’t hold down a job without messing up or saying/doing someone foolish. [/quote]

Maybe it just sticks out more because these FTL DHs and [someone you know's] son are men.

How many women have well paid husbands--have a kid or more--then never go back to work.  Is it because they are "better at being a SAHM" than working at regular jobs?    DWs live in homes paid for by someone else, in this case their husband instead of wealthy parents.   They "just volunteer" and do other non-regular jobs.  Or have hobbies.  Or hang out in Europe.      When the shoe is on the other foot, it's not a FTL wife, is it?  Just the males.  Got it.

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Didn’t catch who was parenting and raising the kids, managing the schedules / health/ ECs, maintaining the house, managing the staff and repair vendors, and planning the future trips and goals whilst the rich husband works all day and then night on his phone.[/quote]

Um. They aren't all doing that. I am a mostly WFH single parent here, very active in PTA and see lots of Moms. There is about the same breakdown of ables and not ables across the spectrum. Some are staying and home and struggling with the basics. Because we don't expect boys to do lots of the caring and family maintenance, so not working is the glaring sign of FTL. [/quote]

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