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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents forced me to go to an overnight church retreat that I was dreading. I begged them to let me skip it.

It was terrible, exactly like I expected it to be. Absolutely nothing positive came from it.

Let them skip it. [/quote]

I’ll argue that it may have been terrible because you were going in with a bad mindset. My dd went to camp with a friend. Friend’s mom was super anxious and talked to friend about all the bad things that *could* happen. The friend showed up already miserable and everything that wasn’t perfect just confirmed how scary and bad that experience would be. [/quote]

... 'cause very trip is always great for everyone?[/quote]

Right because some PP didn’t enjoy her school trip 30 years ago that should weigh into OP’s decision, why?[/quote]

I'm the church poster. My point is that I had a reason for dreading it and I was right. I knew I'd be excluded from the group and get bullied, feel lonely and awkward and that I would hate it. My mom was like the above person and convinced me that if I just turn my frown upside down (adjust my attitude) it would be fine and fun.

They were wrong. My gut told me the trip was a bad idea and I was right.

I know I spend a lot of time trying to walk that line between teaching my child this lesson or that lesson. But OP's child will have other opportunities between now and college to ease into being away from home. Why throw her into the deep end now, on a multi night trip, when she clearly has reason to believe it will not be good for her? 
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OP’s daughter happily signed up for the trip. She thought she could do it. [/quote]

And? She changed her mind. She no longer believes she can do it.

Let her stay home. [/quote]

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