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[quote=Anonymous]The one girl I was absolutely devastated from losing broke up with me in 1990 when I was a senior in college.  She instead started dating (and later married) a guy named Jim who to me was a very dysfunctional zero...but he was on the baseball team, so I guess...that's what counted?

And I did think of her a lot after that and only threw away pictures of us together about 5 years ago.

Anyway, 30+ years after I last saw her I got a Facebook message saying basically, "Hi, this is Amy.  Well, I divorced Jim last year.  I really made a mistake back then when I chose him.  Are you still single?"

It was one of those, "If only things were different..." dreams that actually came true.

BUT, when I thought of the reality of the situation, the absolute cruelty and stupidity she displayed back in 1990 and how completely predictable the failure of her relationship with Jim was...no, forget it.  Plus the idea that I would still just be there and say, "Awww...it's okay."

It was like, okay so you STILL have no respect for me!

So after that, nah.  I never think about old relationships.  One came back into my life and I could have had it if I wanted it.  Saying no to her was a cold water splash that made me realize that only the here and now matter, and that all that pining and remembering was just a distortion of reality.

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