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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I did. DH and I were college friends who got together as he was getting ready to move away for a new job. We dated long distance for 2 years and then I moved to where he was without a ring. I got a job and chose to live with roommates instead of living with him. We dated another year before getting engaged and then got married a year after that. It’ll be 23 years this year.

It was a risk, but it was also an adventure. [/quote]

Your “adventure” worked. Sometimes it ruins your life. A man should propose before moving or dump him. I wish I had. [/quote]

There are no guarantees in life— you make the best choices you can at the time.

You can roadmap all the ways different choices could go right or wrong but it won’t prove anything.

Maybe you don’t move and you break up (either immediately or bcs long distance relationships are hard) — could be you never find a relationship as good or could be you do.

Maybe you make the ultimatum and get a ring, that doesn’t guarantee happily ever after— could be the stress of insisting on getting married actually undermines the relationship long term.

At some point you have to embrace, or at least learn to surf, the uncertainty of life, especially at 24. There is a whole multiverse of lives out there and no way to know which will be “best”.

So I am sorry things did not work out for you but I really don’t think refusing to tale any risks in relationships or life is a sensible option.

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This is not a risk worth taking. A man who puts a woman in this position without a proposal does not love her. [/quote]

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