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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok, you haven’t said what your kid’s allergens are, unless I missed it. I’m going to assume they’re tree nuts and peanuts, given the Easter egg context. I’m also going to assume it was a chocolate bunny given the foil wrapped comment you made.

First thing you should teach your kid with nut allergies is to NEVER accept/eat chocolate that isn’t labeled with ingredients.  Doesn’t matter if a parent gives it to them or not.  No ingredients to read= hard pass. I know it’s hard/sad to see them unable to enjoy like other kids, but I’ve always taught my 14 year old son with nut allergies that no brownie or chocolate is worth having a reaction and that we will get a safe treat later.

It sounds like your kid knew that and refused, so good for her.  She carries two epis all the time- good for her.

You know your ex best, but with nut allergies, sweets are really hard, so I wouldn’t necessarily extrapolate that a slip up with chocolate means all food your ex provides is now suspect. Unfortunately, there is nothing we can do to ever be 100% safe from allergens. There are always food recalls stating undeclared allergens found, etc. [/quote]

Yes, treenut and peanut allergies.

I want to be clear on what you are saying.  If your kid was at an Easter egg hunt, and didn’t eat anything because they know chocolate is unsafe, and then when they got home you gave them a replacement treat which was small wrapped candies you had taken out of a bag, or brownies you had baked, they wouldn’t eat them?

This was the safe treat later.

She didn’t eat it because she was still eating the jelly beans she had gotten.  It was luck.[/quote]

PP here. Yes, if I give him a piece of chocolate taken from a bag, he will often ask if it’s safe and to show him.  If he doesn’t, I remind him that he failed to do so.

Is he a perfect allergy patient? Not at all. He sometimes refuses to take his epis, so your kid is way ahead of mine, but then he also won’t eat a single thing if he doesn’t have his epi with him.  It’s a work in progress.

Like other posters, I also note that you seem to be now assuming that one chocolate mistake by your ex means no food or meal in the house is safe. As I said earlier, you know your ex best, but you didn’t give any indication that there have been previous issues. Is your ex forcing your daughter to eat Thai food, for example, or was it one mistake (that yes, I realize could’ve been catastrophic)? Both my husband and I have accidentally purchased items that were unsafe, but we don’t feed our son cuisines known to be unsafe for nut allergies.  If your ex is doing stuff like that on a more global basis, yeah, you have a serious issue. A one time mistake? Can happen to anyone.[/quote]

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