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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op might stick up for her DH, I don’t know why everyone is assuming she doesn’t. And I suspect her parents don’t constantly make these comments. But she wants her parents, who she presumably loves and respects, to see all the great things in her DH that she does, and it is hard for her that they don’t share her viewpoint and maybe she even feels that they don’t respect her judgment. I am making assumptions here, but so are all of the posters saying she is the problem for not sticking up for her DH. [/quote]
She says "I don't see how it's my responsibility to convince them that he's great. I have enough on my plate."

That clearly demonstrates that she just smiles and nods when these comments come up. Her plate is too full to defend the person she loves and the father of her children to negative nancy's. GMAFB.

Maybe OP likes being put on a pedestal and told no one is good enough for her? Perfect pretty princess on a pedestal, can do no wrong.[/quote]

OP here - I probably didn't phrase it in the best way, but my point was that I don't want to feel like I need to make it a point to constantly be like "my husband is SO amazing!" just to show my parents that I married a great guy. I don't like to brag about myself either. When they make comments, I do defend him or explain why they're wrong. But if they're otherwise feeling anxious about him, I don't think it's my responsibility to help manage their anxiety or whatever is worrying them about him by gushing about him. Does that make sense?

"Maybe OP likes being put on a pedestal and told no one is good enough for her? Perfect pretty princess on a pedestal, can do no wrong." I have no idea how you reached this conclusion. I said that I don't like negative comments about DH or being told that he's not good enough for me. [/quote]

OP, I don't think anyone was implying you should gush about him, or try to convince them he's great.  By "defend" I think people had something in mind more along the lines of telling them firmly that you do not want to hear negative comments about DH, or that you find their comments unsupportive of your choices and your marriage, or maybe explain that they are causing you stress by expressing a negative opinion of your family life.  All things which should be true.[/quote]

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