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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So many women embracing victimhood here. It’s one thing for a child to feel helpless or overwhelmed by mean people but as an adult? Know your strength. Avoid the jerks when you can, ignore them when you cannot. And yes, I have had plenty of people be mean to me. I don’t resort to high school tropes to define the situation. You’re better than the jerks.[/quote]

Actually,  you are victim-blaming here by implying that a single individual has the power to avoid abuse by a cohesive group simply by being "better."  That's not how bullying works.  Bullies have power - that's the very definition of power.  They cannot be ignored if they don't want to be.  Kids don't commit suicide when they are severely bullied simply because they failed to ignore.  You seem like someone lucky enough never to have actually been a victim of real bullying.  It's not just someone being mean to you.  It's a coordinated effort by a socially powerful group to harm a person with significantly less social status.  It is not some insecure kid or a kid with a bad home life.  It's typically girls who are fairly popular and more socially adept than their peers.  By invalidating the inescapable nature of real mean girl bullying, you trivialize the trauma that real girls experience every day.  [/quote]

DP.  If we are talking adults, maybe run for the pool board or be on the PTA or host your own neighborhood party or whatever you are complaining about as overrun by “mean girls” and make those nicer places if you aren’t able to ignore them somehow. These posts are fascinating to me.  If you walk around in this world and are a loyal, kind, and inclusive friend you will attract those people.  Build the life want to have.  A starting point of all women are mean is certainly not going to help.

If I walked around everyday thinking the entire human race was filled with mean people I’d be seriously depressed.[/quote]

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