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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here- I’m not saying cheating is ok, I’m saying that the reaction to the physical act of having sex with another person seems particularly outsized when you consider how casually sex is now treated outside of marriage.

I’ve read posts on this forum of women being devastated for years and years after the discovery of their husband’s affair.  To a certain extent I understand the devastation is because of the broken trust and everything that came with the infidelity, but I also think there’s more to it than that.  I don’t think that same reaction would happen with an emotional affair.

And to a degree when you see how triggered people seem to be by the concept of an “open marriage.”[/quote]

But would the reaction be the same to a one night stand, as opposed to a full blown affair? I don't think so, and many comments on the thread have backed this up. People are much more hurt by infidelity in the form of a relationship than infidelity in the form of just sex. And lying is big too, because it makes people feel dumb.

I think it's about the combination of emotions and sex.

I also think that for women, the risk that their husband might get another woman pregnant is a big part of it, especially if you have kids. A lot of women talk about the betrayal of an affair of being a betrayal of their family, not just them specifically. A man who cheats and starts another family with someone else has robbed his older children of many things at once.[/quote]

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