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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand the rationale behind other responses, but think what you say must flow from you. If you are not someone who enjoys cutting others verbally -- as pretty much everyone in our family does -- then you will be inflicting pain on yourself. I would go with brutal honesty because this is family. "That joke hurt. I dislike pain. You can say whatever you want, but I'm not required to listen. I don't want to start to dread seeing you, so I'll go now." [/quote]

Absolutely don't say this.

It's better to say nothing and then avoid them to say something like this, the jerk relatives will be making fun of you to your face for years.

Either practice an insulting cutting remark and say "can't you take a joke" afterwards, or just avoid the relative as much as humanly possible.

You could also share an embarrassing story about the relative, and then say "can't you take a joke?"

Let's just say my relative didn't  like the story shared to all the younger members of the family about when he used a kkk robe to "joke" with coworkers in the 1980s. Didn't think anyone remembered that one, did he? Hasn't said one mean peep to me since. And I don't like being mean, this was just telling the truth. 
Usually these jerks have some lifelong crappy behavior. [/quote]

I guess you did a good thing by letting your younger relatives know about their racist family origins.[/quote]

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