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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow.

This must the preview post to the "my adult child never comes home to visit me, don't they know I am their mother and they owe me?" style post in about 5-10 years.[/quote]

DC is failing to launch. There is nothing to come home and visit if they don't ever leave.[/quote]

That's not a reason not to celebrate graduation.  Give kid a deadline for when support is cut off.  Age 22 is still very young.  Not celebrating graduation is just awful.  Suggests a very dysfunctional relationship with your kid.[/quote]

This.

Celebrate the milestone and give a deadline. Don't call it an accomplishment, because OP is right, it's not.  Any NT person can graduate college with parental support. Period.  I will celebrate with my kids but they KNOW I will not support them.  We've been talking about that their whole lives. My job as a parent is to raise self sufficient adults who make good choices. It sounds like OP is feeling the failure and I understand that.  OP I would feel the same.  BUT you need to love your child unconditionally - that doesn't mean support bad decisions - it does mean be there for the milestone moments.[/quote]

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