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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.[/quote]

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event?  That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.[/quote]

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes.  One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities. [/quote]

Sorry…my kid has been accepted to a top 5 college that I am sure you will be dying for your kid to attend.  My kid runs  circles around yours including winning several national prizes, running multiple clubs at school and getting paid to work at a tech company.

Yet…yet…yet my kid still is able to participate in midweek activities from time-to-time.

So…what is the excuse for yours?[/quote]

Lots of people work in big tech companies.  It’s not as big of a deal as you make it sound and you need skill not a top five school.    No, your kids don’t run circles around mine and running clubs is a joke as most don’t do much of anything.  Let’s be real. Those things are for resumes.  When your kids are in the top orchestras, club sports and school stuff that’s more impressive.  And, given mine started algebra in 6th they aren’t exactly dumb. The kids at the school clubs do very little.  Very little.  [/quote]

So then why is your kid not capable of managing a random mid week social outing?

Sounds like your kid isn’t capable.

Everything you list above is to try to get your kid into the college that my kid is attending.

My kid does run the top clubs…and no, not many HS kids are getting flown to client sites (yep mine too) to work on projects during breaks.

The fact you brought up an orchestra is a huge tell that about your background.  You are a complete and utter cliche.[/quote]

Actually it says nothing about my background.  It says I support my child’s interests.  Mine choose to do it.  It’s not my interest at all.  You clearly push only your interests.

I don’t need my kids to work and earn money during the school year.  Why would you do that to them.  I highly doubt what you are saying is true but ok.

Again, too clubs mean nothing.  Most do very little and it’s name only.

My kid is not going to the same schools as yours. Mine doesn’t care about status and we’d rather pay for college and grad school at a school we can afford.  You don’t need a degree from a so called ivy to do well in tech.  And mine want a dual major so not all schools have both.

And, no, there is no time.  There are often several activities a day and some things are missed or we have a delicate balancing act of leaving one to go to another and returning.  [/quote]

My kid loves the stuff they do…that’s why they are able to handle it while yours can’t.

[b]Don’t give me that BS that your kid wanted to be in the orchestra…you foisted that on them starting at a young age.[/b]

Sorry…your BS just isn’t holding up.[/quote]

DP. Mine absolutely does. She is very young for the level of orchestra she’s in, and is working towards being the section leader. She is good enough in her instrument to go to conservatory but hasn’t decided if that’s the path she wants to take. She also has friends there, so it’s not like there is no socialization happening at ECs, either.

Kids have different amounts of free time,  and different attitudes towards what to do with it. DD chooses to stay home and relax, the one free afternoon she’s done early. She has friends that go out every day because their ECs are seasonal, they have more free time on their hands, and they are extroverted. Mine is happy with seeing friends once a week or once every other week, outside of school. The kids should each do what works for them. I don’t know why you’re so concerned with how other people’s children are spending their evenings. [/quote]

The orchestra has been an incredible experience for my child.  I cannot imagine saying no.[/quote]

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