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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ll also point out, OP, that likely this sister spent a lot of time and money doing whatever activities, showers, wedding plans, etc you had even if it wasn’t super convenient for her. She now wants to celebrate herself - super generously to you, I might add - and you aren’t willing to make any concessions. I mean, really, you won’t go on an allexpense paid trip to HAWAII? Your kids are not old enough to give two hoots if they “miss time with friends” this summer and even if they were that wouldn’t prioritize over this trip for me. [/quote]

My kids are two young, but there's a third sister with older kids and they will be the ones not wanting to miss time with friends and their activities.[/quote]

I can’t imagine ANY kid saying “jeeze I’d rather hang out with my friends while we’re all on our phones and talking to eachother on our phones even though we’re three feet away. And also spend 1-6 weeks at a camp where I am just one of dozens of other kids who’s parents want a break from us; have to share showers and bathrooms with multiple other strange kids, not see any family, be in a strict-ish enviornment—instead of going on a FREE [b]vacation[/b] to Hawaii or Europe!”

At quite literally [b]any[/b] age, I would have said “Screw camp, and I love all my friends but I can see them during the school year—I’m spending the summer in luxury!”

I honestly can’t tell if this is just a [i]verty[/i] subtle troll, or someone who is seriously dense enough to turn this kind of thing down. She’s literally going to hire two nannies and is offering to pay for [b]everything[/b]

If this is real, she’s an amazing sister and OP does [i]not[/i] deserve her. OP should be ashamed. [/quote]

Your use of bolding for emphasis notwithstanding, I know many kids who would much rather got to camp and hang out with their friends than go on a family vacation with extended family including multiple aunts and much younger cousins. I also know kids who would jump at the chance. I also know kids who would have zero interest in Hawaii or Bali but be thrilled to go to Spain or Italy, and others who find the whole idea of Europe boring but would be very excited to to a beach resort almost anywhere.

It depends on the kids, what activities they do and their relationship to them, the families, the ages, etc. It is not an obvious yes or no. This could be a very hard sell for a kid who would have to miss the specialty soccer camp that everyone else on their team is attending and that might make it harder for them to get chosen as a forward next year. Or the 13-year-old who will be 3-12 years older than ever other kid on the trip, does not need a nanny, but also doesn't want to spend two whole weeks reading books and hanging out with his mom and aunts.

I am surprised by how many people on here are jumping all over OP when I can think of many scenarios in which what her sister is asking for just does not make sense for this specific family, and maybe doing a shorter trip somewhere a little closer (like a week at a nice resort in Mexico right after school gets out, where there won't be jet lag for the little kids and the older kids won't miss any of their planned summer activities) would make more sense. If OP and her other sisters are suggesting that kind of compromise and the sister is digging in her heels, I actually do think she "just doesn't get it." Sometimes kids are not convenient. It's just how it is.[/quote]

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