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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It would be easier to follow if you just told us what happened this time OP.[/quote]

We have a 4 month old son and MIL recently came to visit from 2 hours away and said her son looked really tired. And called him later on to question why he looks so tired almost as if we don’t have a freaking 4 month old child at home.

Again not her business. We alternate nights with the baby pretty much to a T. But again even if I was being “unfair” it’s still not my MIL’s business to go behind my back and hint around to her son to check up on him to make sure I’m “doing my job.”

Her son is a grown married man and a big boy with a mouth of his own. If there were issues he is more than capable of speaking to me himself. Not having mommy swooping in as super woman to try and protect him from being a father and save him from his evil unfair wife.

This isn’t the first time she has tried to pull this shit.

My husband did the right thing by telling her mom. “Yes of course I’m tired I have a 4 month year old son but so is OP and you don’t seem to care about her well being. Please stop questioning how things are done in our household I’m a big boy.” And she did stop but of course after saying, “I’m your mother I’m just looking out for you.”

Funny how she didn’t seem to notice or care after I was in labor for hours on end and when I was super sick during my pregnancy and she didn’t check up to see if her son was doing enough to help take care of me.

Which my husband was amazing through this whole thing.[/quote]

Oh wow so a mother can’t even check up on her own son after he is married? It sounds like a parent just being concerned about their own child. It doesn’t sound like at all she was hinting or implying that you don’t do your part with the baby. Your name was never even brought up by her. Unless you left that part out.

I have a feeling you wouldn’t feel the same way if a mother called up her daughter after having a baby and mentioned she was concerned because she seems super tired. You would just see it as a concerned mother looking out for her daughter.

It’s funny that the minute a mother discusses anything with her grown married son other than. “How’s the weather” or generic basic conversation the wife feels her husband’s mother is being over bearing with him or insulting the wife.

Yet a wife can talk about all kinds of deep subjects with her mom for hours on end and she isn’t scrutinized for that.[/quote]

Betch, you know you're triflin'. You know. You know you're not pointing out that he's tired "just because." If you gave a dirty rat's ass, you'd be offering to babysit, clean and do laundry so BOTH new parents could rest and reconnect. But you're not. You're using a baby as an excuse to look down your nose at it's mother and couching it all in "concern" for your son. You need to step back, because the doors are closing.[/quote]

Is the OP? Please see the doctor asap![/quote]

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