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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, therapy should be helping you to integrate your experiences.

[quote]Basically it has become clear to me that he just wants me to feel like I will never be good enough.[/quote]

You have projected your DH into the role of your mother and are continuing the same victim/thought patterns. He likely feels entirely different than you surmise. After so many years together he likely loves and is worried for you and what sounds very much like a midlife crisis. Find a new therapist, start fresh, say you want to avoid a midlife crisis and go from there.

I hope this is a troll post.

You may well end up hurting your own children tremendously, the family pattern is repeating. You are not "evolving" into a well adjusted midlife adult, but sound like a teen yourself. With a burn it all down mentality. The "new friends" don't sound like any stable happily married adults I know. Talking about "fun random sex" is not emotionally connecting, I suspect these relationships are somewhat shallow with somewhat unhealthy people. A younger you avoided such people and built a healthy life. Ironic now you may blow it iall up.

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This. Exactly.  I watched a friend who had a midlife crisis exactly like you describe burn down her entire life for this teenage notion.  She lost the house, husband ended up divorcing her, she was humiliated by the men she slept with on the side and now is her 50s with college age kids who weee deeply harmed by it all. [/quote]

It’s where the “grass is not greener” dating really applies.

Watch who you are hanging out with, OP. Other adults glamorizing random sex and online dating and affairs when you are married with kids, is not the crowd you need to be with.  It’s a recipe for disaster. [/quote]

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