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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]i have been confused for a while by this notion that boomer parents have of like - your kids, we have zero responsibility to help.

Like - ok you CAN take that pov, but then why did you have kids if you only wanted to help them for 18 years? [/quote]

I have been very confused for a while by this notion that millennial kids are owed a support for life, and the only reason for their parents’ existence is to provide that support.  Why did you have kids if you can’t manage being a parent?  [/quote]

Multi-generational help is not a new concept. And something that’s still practiced by many traditional cultures around the world. What IS new is grandparents refusing to help out or be involved with their grandkids lives in a meaningful way.[/quote] Moving around to different places affects this considerably. Movement is much more likely now, but it has been around. My paternal grandparents (born in 1905), did not have family help because of this.  My parents (born in 1929 and 31) did not have family help because of this. My DH and I (1960 and 1964, did not have family help because of this.  My children (born 97 & 99) are unlikely to have children. [/quote]

+1 my parents and IL’s would love to be more involved in the day to day and in their grandkids lives. No, they would likely not provide anything close to full time child care and that is ok. But just involvement - coming over or having people over for family dinners, going to church together, watching the kids for a date night or when both parents are sick - yes absolutely! But economic opportunities were limited where both my husband and I grew up, in two different Midwestern areas. So we both left. Likewise, the DC area is too pricey for retirees, so the grandparents all stayed (and my parents, at least, provide some care and help to my uncle/father’s brother). It’s unfortunate, but career prospects are limited in many areas of the country, so you really have no other choice but to leave and go where the jobs are. [/quote]

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