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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's weird to me this became a thread about attacking generations. This doesn't feel like a generational issue. It's family to family. My Boomer parents had ZERO help from their parents, and honestly could have used it. I know plenty of Boomer parents who help a lot. It's not generational.

I also think everyone is assuming "help" means direct childcare. Yes that can obviously be nice but I think there are many ways families can support one another.

We're talking about mothers who are on antidepressants. I can think of dozens of things parents could do to support a person struggling with mental health other than babysitting her kids. Being a good listener. Offer encouragement and moral support. Also even childcare doesn't have to mean being Nanny Grandma. It could mean keeping an eye on the kids while Mom makes dinner, or just developing a relationship with the kids so that mom and dad are not the only adults invested in them as people. Financial support can help to, and it doesn't have to be tons of money either-- it could be a couple 20s tucked in a hand to order pizza once in a while during the lean years when day care costs eat up all your disposable income.

I struggled with mental health when my DD was very young and I didn't wish, or expect, anyone would just come change her diapers or watch her while I went to dinner. I just wished I had felt supported in any way by my parents or ILs. They were mostly absent, and when they were present they were critical or indifferent. It absolutely impacted my mental well being. Both my DH and I felt abandoned by our families during that time. It was very hard.[/quote]

Oh, puleez!  I am so sick of hearing about all your mental health problems.  Get over yourselves!  Life is hard and unfair and owes you nothing.  You have a husband to listen to your woes and if you were diagnosed with PPD there is professional help.  People, including your family and friends, also have problems, but we are adults and we don't burden everyone else with "My mental health is so bad that I need help changing a diaper or if I could just take five minutes to myself but nobody is helping me.  Boo hoo.". Stop whining and do what needs to be done.  Put your baby in a safe place and eat your dinner while it is hot.

Maybe someone in your family is dealing with a devastating medical diagnosis and your whiny problems are not life and death.

You are the best educated and wealthiest generation of women ever but you are also the most helpless, entitled, self-centered, self-consumed, pain-in-the a$$ women of all time!  Grow up!!!
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