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[quote=Anonymous]I understand.  Not having kids is primarily for superficial reasons. Often times it means you raised a shallow person. Instead of love and family they prioritize vacations, disposable income, hip neighborhoods and career growth.

It’s also sad because you can still have kids and go on nice vacations, live in a hip neighborhood and have a great career.

Not having kids is better in your 30s. You’re ahead in terms of the fun you can have. Life doesn’t seem so different from a couple wirh a child or two. But then things dramatically change in your 40s and you’re outliers. Kid activities pick up and you better have the income to dedicate to hobbies.  The average person can’t tolerate alcohol as well so that’s kind of out.

Do you really want to live in a hip condo around 20 somethings whose main activities are day drinking?  Or worse be a dog person who tells people with kids all about their dogs without realizing they feel kind of bad since it’s just a dog?

OP is sad because she is realizing the path they are choosing.  She also likely enjoying having children and knowing her kids won’t experience this. It’s like being an educated person and finding out your kids don’t want to attend college. They will be missing out.    [/quote]

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