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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a SAHM, I would love it if most women were still SAHMs. There would be more people around and we could do more things during the day like PTO, book clubs, lunches, etc. Also there wouldn't be this pressure to "go back to work" when the kids are older the way there is now. I've managed to work just very part time at a school, but I feel like there is this expectation that because my kids are older I should be back at work. Also, if most families only had one income, there would be less of a competitive "arms race" so to speak on buying kids stuff and experiences. Housing and other prices wouldn't have been driven so high either.

But mostly I would just love it if I were EXPECTED to stay at home, rather than bucking some trend. [/quote]

Honestly, yes. I sometimes think I'm career-driven because that's what is expected of women of my socioeconomic class, but it sure would be great if being SAHM was the default.[/quote]

I work fulltime plus do all planning, arranging, assessing, changing for the kids and house and property.

My husband only works, he has adhd/asd so won’t be multitasking or paying attention to anything anytime soon.

He also NEVER says thank you or even acknowledge my career and promotions nor my caring for everyone and everything.

And guess what?

He’d love it if I stayed home like his mommy did. Taking care of her adhd/asd husband and two sons, the other still lives at home.

But I’d still get an ungrateful, unthankful, ignorant and clueless husband. In fact, he’s check out even more, if that’s even possible, if I SAHM.

So I’d be damned if I SAHM for that! No thank you.

And btw, I work with other high income/ wealthy men, for 20+ years. They DO say thank you to their wives, plan weekend trips, coach their kids stuff, and clean up their garbage. I’d SAHM for then maybe.

For now all I can do is see the humor in the ADHD/asd lapses all the time. Fortunately he stays away from anything needing help or repair or attention. When he doesn’t then it’s double the work to fix. [/quote]

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