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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There’s not much you can do about it. [/quote]

Yes there is. 9 and 11 are too young to be left unattended at night. OP can ask to add this to the custody agreement. [/quote]

In Maryland the rule is 8 to be left home alone.  And it's not like he's leaving them overnight.  
It's not a parenting decision I would make, but it's not illegal and I can't imagine a court changing custody agreements because of it.[/quote]

He is actively choosing NOT to parent on his parenting time, and on top of that, leave very young kids unattended regularly until 10 pm on a school night for half his custody days.  You best believe his lawyer would tell him to take a demand letter requesting a reduction in custody time based on his self-evident disinterest in parenting VERY seriously. This isn’t a case of different parenting styles or even disagreement on how to handle a serious issue like mental health therapies. It’s a parent who quite simply … is not there. I’m not saying this is some kind of easy slam dunk or denying the risk, but it is a VERY bad look for the dad. [/quote]

DP.  It actually IS simply a case of different parenting styles.  If you want full control over how your kids are parented every day you need to think about that BEFORE you divorce.[/quote]

OP here. Clearly you haven’t been divorced bc if you have been you’d know that there are no good options, and you have to pick the best of the worst. Enjoy
Your life which clearly does not have these problems![/quote]

I’m sorry, I’m not actually trying to be flippant, but if he’s not abusing them then it is what it is.  You’re divorced and he’s just as much their parent as you are - you don’t get to be his boss about HOW he parents, even if you don’t like it.[/quote]

You know that if there is a BUT after a SORRY, the BUT negates the SORRY, right? If you didn’t, now you know and you can stop being snarky with your sorrynotsorrys. [/quote]

Be mad all you want, but it doesn’t change the reality of the situation.  OP doesn’t get to decide how the other parent parents.  He’s not abusing the kids, he’s merely doing something she doesn’t like and wouldn’t choose to do herself.  But it’s not her call on the days they’re his responsibility.  That’s one of the unfortunate consequences of getting a divorce when there are kids involved.  [/quote]

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