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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's deeply socially ingrained. If you can't say something nice don't say anything. Catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Courtesy in general. Also, most of us lack the assumption that the world is out to get us, so there's less of a chip on the shoulder on a daily basis. I hear a lot of AAs complaining about being "disrespected". That's not really on my personal radar. I guess all this,could add up to seeming happy. Though my HHI is less than half OP's. I have serious problems and worries in my life. I just don't think it's appropriate to put it on others through rude behavior on my part. [/quote]

Black woman here. I will say that respect is a pretty big thing among the black people I grew up with/around. Unless you are a minority, you probably won't get it. I will say that being treated second-best, not being given the benefit of the doubt, having to prove yourself and/or being met with suspicion, gets old after so many encounters. I wouldn't call it a chip on the shoulder though. [/quote]

It's a vicious cycle though, isn't it? On the one hand, yes, you probably do need to be more attuned to people trying to treat you second best so you can stand up for yourself. On the other hand, a lot of people are socially clueless, awkward, or just preoccupied and it is easy to see their behavior as disrespectful when it has nothing at all to do with you. The people I know, of any color, who are finely attuned to respect as an issue see more disrespect from others than is really there. We all know at least one white man like this, don't we?[/quote]

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