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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m very curious about this. My XH definitely liked women (and is currently with a woman now). But one day when our marriage was on the rocks he suggested an open marriage and threesome. I assumed he wanted two women at the same time but he said he wanted another man, not so he could watch him with me but *to do him from behind*. We never did it and eventually divorced but this statement of his still lives rent free in my brain. [/quote]

Maybe he just really wanted to try anal but couldn't find a woman who would do it.[/quote]

Yeah, I know it’s popular, but the really wanting to try anal in and of itself is pretty gay. Most straight men are perfectly happy with a self-lubricating, feces-free vagina.[/quote]

I don’t think that’s true at all. I’ve had lots of sex with lots of men who were very hetero and they were all interested in the anal option - which isn’t an option with me. I think typical hetero men in particular will F any hole they can, if they can get away with it.[/quote]

Correct.

DH here.  Straight guys like anal, but ONLY with women (not men).

Pretty sure gay dudes or bis want to kiss (and do other stuff) with another man.  NO THANK YOU!  [/quote]

How exactly do you know what ALL straight guys like or don't like?[/quote]

Guys talk.  Not so much now that we are all married.  But during my dating years, we talked, and often anal (with women) came up when guys talk about s*x.  It is a lot more common than you might think and yes- there are many, many women who enjoy it (as in: they like it; they want to do it).  Is it “all” straight guys or all women ? Of course no one can know everything. But it is quite common.

But I have never known a straight guy who even hinted he had done stuff with other guys, or even fantasized about that.  [/quote]

Straight women talk, too. Maybe they exist, I’m not saying they don’t, but I have yet to personally know even one woman who liked anal. (And yet every man seems to know so many women who love it, lol.)

I’d take those frat boy conversations you and your buddies used to have with a grain of salt. When my friends and I used to discuss sex with each other, we wanted advice, not a high five. I’m guessing you and your buddies wanted to show off while using porn as the high authority of sexual gratification.[/quote]

Sooo many wrong assumptions on your part, PP.  for starters, I was a GDI.

But whatever you choose to believe, you do you.

Beyond you talking to your friends and me talking to my friends, I also know what I know from personal experience.

I also know too many women who think like you do, who express revulsion at anything ana! related, and openly state [b]how disgusted they are at even the thought of lovemaking that way[/b].

You do realize just how homophobic you are when you express your disgust, right?

You sound super conservative or super old (possibly both).[/quote]

Stop with the slurs and your nonsense. Outside of porn, most women are not into anal. Nothing homophobic about that.

Bisexual woman[/quote]

Thank you, PP. The poster who has, twice, equated a woman's dislike for anal with being homophobic is simply insane. Zero correlation between those two things and a totally nonsensical thing to say. Thank you for calling that person out on it. [/quote]

Telling your intimate partner in private your preferences and dislikes is fine; every couple should openly communicate with one another.

Publicly expressing disgust for the type of love-making, which most gay male couples enjoy,’is homophobic and bigoted.  Several posters have done exactly that.

By making your announcement here on DCUM, you are exposing your personal biases and hate.

Stop shaming people! [/quote]

Oh please. You are the one with the problem. You are upset that multiple women have expressed their personal sexual preferences which is to not include any anal sex in their lovemaking. We don’t care if gay men want to partake in anal sex. That is their business. But what you keep saying is that if women don’t engage in anal sex and don’t like it, they are homophobic. Nope. You, however, are a huge misogynist.[/quote]

They did not say “I personally do not prefer it.”

They made demeaning comments such as “I don’t want a dick up my butt,” referred to fecal matter, and questioned why any person with a penis would engage in anal when a “perfectly lubricated vagina” was available.

Several of you went far beyond “expressing their person preference.”  They expressed disgust at other people’s sexual preferences and attempted to shame people within the LGTBQI+ community.

When you’ve made bigoted remarks, the appropriate response is to apologize and engage is deep reflection to confront your biases.  Instead, you are being defensive and are in denial of your homophobia.[/quote]

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