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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to fake it til you make it.

You don’t have the luxury of appearing depressed right now. Right now you need to be the ideal partner, stepford wife level. Appearance and temperament need to be immaculate at all times. Zero conflict.

You have a single mission right now, to secure you AND your children’s financial stability.

Get into therapy, tell your therapist everything. You’re being financially abused.

You don’t like where you live? No you don’t, you love it because he loves it. In fact, now is the time where you should be involved in all the boards, charities, and networking opportunities you can. Lean into how amazing this community is.

You were depressed? No you weren’t, it was birthday blues but you remembered how amazing your comfortable life is. He’s such a good provider, such a wonderful partner, such a great father.

In fact, in 90 days or so, you just want to go to the courthouse and get married. But because he has adult children and assets that predate your relationship of course you understand if he wants a prenup, all your concerned with it making sure your joint child will be protected if something were to happen to him, you don’t need to see the will, of course you trust him, of course he will make sure that you and the children are cared for.

Do NOT ask to have your own attorney review it, just sign and make sure you’re married that same week. This is a basis to challenge it later if you divorce.

Start stashing money. Retirement accounts. Personal IRA accounts. Set up a small vanity business, pay yourself. Take out life insurance on him, fold the premiums into the household expenses.

Pad everything, make sure every bill isn’t just current but paid up for months in advance. When you buy groceries, overstock by 30% for non perishable items. Kid needs? Buy ahead, clothing, supplies, everything slowly ramps up expenses. 10% more next month. 2-3% a month after that. Blame inflation.

After you’re married, either things will improve and you’ll never need to use your escape plans, or they won’t but you’ll be in a far better position to take care of yourself.

What’s your education background? Good time for an extra degree.
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