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[quote=Anonymous]We did look closely at school districts, read DCUM (originally came here for the infertility board), look at boundary changes historically. We also researched childcare options and costs before we had kids. We also got on the waitlists for pools in Northern VA when we were pregnant with our first and still lived in DC and now we have a pool membership when most of our neighbors do not. I am one of those annoying people who makes a spreadsheet of camps and sign up dates in late December. I don’t need a gold star or a cookie. I have ADHD and being really disciplined about things that impact my kids if I screw up is important to me.

But - and I know this may be a shock OP - not everyone researches or plans! There are parents of HS freshmen and sophomores in my neighborhood just now figuring out how much college costs and how different and more competitive the application process is. It is easy to feel smug if you are a planner, but it doesn’t help anyone. It just makes you look like a jerk who is telling them “I’d like to help but I don’t have a Time Machine”.

There are a lot of reasons people done plan - 
1. They are overwhelmed or oblivious and time snuck up on them
2. They always intended to move but pandemic + sky high mortgage rates 
3. They grew up in a privileged environment and assume if they buy a house anywhere in FFX county, it will be fine because they heard FFX was a good school system. 
4. They are more laid back than you and they aren’t focused on optimizing every element of their lives and good enough is good enough. 
5. Any of the above reasons + they were fine until other people started talking private and now they are freaking out.

On the last one, I had a similar experience with red shirting. My kid has a late summer BD and we had never considered holding him back until all the other preschool parents with summer boys were talking about it. Then I was fully convinced everyone was red shirting but us. Turns out that only 1 family of 7 actually did. So a lot of the hand wringing and big talk is just that - talk. [/quote]

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