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[quote=Anonymous]mens happiness has been at the center of marriages and families for millennia. I think this saying came about because traditionally women have had to do a lot of work to ensure the happiness of their husbands and the care of their children, and it's an acknowledgement that a woman who is really unhappy will do that work poorly or not at all.

Basically: in a system where all emotional labor falls on women, you better make sure that woman is functioning emotionally herself or things are going to go to pieces. If your wife is the one who 100% of the time is dealing with toddler meltdowns or the upset kid who comes home from school angry but non communicative, if she's the one who knows how to make sure all the ILs are happy with the holiday plan, if she's listening to you complain about your brother or your job or politics 6x a week, if she's keeping up relationships in the neighborhood and at church and at school, then you better make sure she's getting enough of her own happiness to fill up her tank so she can do those things.

Now in a marriage where a man takes on an equal or even greater emotional burden, this saying wouldn't apply. But in how many marriages is that true? Many men go their entire lives pretending they don't even have feelings other than anger and indifference. It is WORK to help a person like that function in the world, so yeah, you better hope the person doing that work is reasonably happy in life. Because she's the one ensuring everyone else is reasonably happy.[/quote]

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