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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again, and it's been interesting to read all of the responses that have rolled in since last night's dinner, and with the clearer head now that we've gotten out of the trenches.

For those who say "he's cheating" - I mean, I can understand why that would be one guess, but I just don't think that's it.  The work stress is legit, this specific situation he's dealing with is  a lot.  I definitely wasn't giving him enough understanding with that, and I too had had an unusually grueling work week.  On the heels of the argument over finding paper on Tuesday, when he readily acknowledged that it was not about me at all and really him letting off steam at me about something totally different, I should have just credited the same issue on Friday and handled myself better.  To everyone who acknowledged his out-sized reaction but called me out on how I could have handled it all better and less "about me" -- thank you.  [b]I know I have a problem accepting that someone else's moods aren't always a reaction to me[/b]/I can't solve them or convince them to feel differently.

We had a great evening yesterday, talked about everything and agreed to reset, and are on track for a good weekend.  I really took to heart the PP who cited a similar fight, accepting a make-up gesture, and then facing a serious trial the next day.  It feels so much better to have a partner than an adversary in the house and getting over the hurdle of stubborn anger has always been worth it, in my relationship. I need to remember that.[/quote]

I get it, OP, I am the same way.

I'm glad you guys were able to make up and enjoy a planned evening out. It sounds like you generally have a pretty amazing spouse, so I'm happy for you.[/quote]

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