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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d be worried that she’s a PITA. [/quote]
Op here. She's cute. But even I find it obnoxious sometimes. How can she learn to turn this off?[/quote]

She’s cute to you, not so much to people unrelated to her.  How did it begin?  And they don’t list grades on the board, it’s not law school.   How would she know she got the second highest grade.   Also, why would she even have a copy of Macbeth?   I think she’s trying to impress you and probably starting to lie to impress you.   Think about how you might have encouraged it.[/quote]

Why are you immediately assuming OP or her daughter are liars? When I was in elementary school, one of my teachers announced who got the top three highest scores after every test.[/quote]

Op here, I'm concerned that she is overly focused on this. In her case, she actually asks the teacher how she ranked, and the teacher often tells her. I don't want to get too involved, she has to make her own mistakes in life just like I did.

I was looking for advice on redirecting her and helping her be more likable to others. Thank you to the posters who gave me good advice and food for thought. [/quote]

I’m a little worried you are more concerned about making her “likable” than making sure she is academically challenged. There’s something very off about it. You didn’t have to come to DCUM to know that you can tell her “yes you did the best on the test but don’t brag. good job!” [/quote]

I was this little girl. In retrospect I think that I worried about rankings because I was really insecure and because by the time I was five or six I knew my parents love was conditional. (My dad was a narcissist and viewed us as extensions of himself. He was nicer to us when HE could brag about us!) I could have benefited from some healthy role modeling by well rounded people who were like “I am not good at swimming but I really enjoy it! You can enjoy something even if you are not the best at it.” I could have also benefited from being praised for things other than academics (like being a good friend). Also if your kid perceives that there isn’t enough success or praise to go around, she is getting that from you. Make sure you don’t compare your kids or set them up in competition against each other.[/quote]

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