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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tbe origin is patriarchy but I think women should pay attention to it and sometimes accept the reality.

Generally speaking, if a guy is interested in you, he is either a “go for what I want” kind of guy or he is shy and will need a ton of encouragement to make the first move. You can tell which is which. If the guy is shy, feel free to give him your number, ask him out, etc. If he is the kind of guy who goes after what he wants, women should be nice and flirt a bit but they shouldn’t make moves.

In hetero relationships, the man must like/love the woman the same or more than the women. Men will not work on relationships unless they are deeply in love with their partner. You don’t want to be with a guy who “gave in,” felt obligated, or felt like he couldn’t get anybody better so he settled for someone who was willing. Those relationships are probably going to suck for the woman. [/quote]

Yeah it's always filled me with anger and resentment as to why nature and reality makes it out to be that going for what you want or going after what you want is a masculine thing to do[/quote]

I don’t think so, it’s just about adjusting your behavior for the circumstances. A lot of men are totally fine with getting asked out and many happy marriages started out with the woman proposing. And sometimes it’s a mutual thing. Going after what you want doesn’t have to be a gendered act. But if a guy is the type of person who goes after what he wants, and he isn’t going after you, that is a big clue you shouldn’t ignore. But a lot of women do, for some reason. [/quote]

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