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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Generally i'm pretty happy with the life I have with my children. [b]But happy people just don't really need to go around talking about whether happy[/b] on an anonymous internet forum that's largely used for people to complain or ask questions.

I also have a pretty healthy relationship with all my in-laws and I don't feel the need to go around talking about that on the family relationships forum where people are mostly complaining about difficult relationships with their family. It doesn't really serve any purpose and it makes people who are struggling feel bad[/quote]
np - OP doth protest too much?

Some parents do have difficulty talking about the negative aspects of their life. Like they arent allowed or supposed to say it out loud. Especially so if there was difficulty conceiving, you must only be grateful blah blah. [/quote]

This is true. Sometimes if I even mildly complain about some aspect of parenting or some annoying thing my kids do, there are certain people who will get very worked up about it, like because I complained one time about how messy my DD is, it must mean I'm a terrible mother whose expectations are too high and I hate motherhood. No, I was just irritated that one day about DD not tidying her room when asked. I got over it.

But I also disagree that a happy person wouldn't make a post like OP's because the catch-22 of motherhood also says that if you express your happiness about your kids or your life, you are insufferably smug (see, i.e., some of the responses on this thread). I do sometimes feel this overwhelming happiness about motherhood and this deep sense of satisfaction in my children and my life, but there are very few people I would express it to. My DH. That might be it. I have a couple friends who would receive it well if they were in the right mood, but you might catch someone on a bad day who does not want to hear it.

So I actually understand the impulse to post about it here. You still might offend someone, but it won't be your friend or your neighbor. That's why I think people post the bad stuff AND the good stuff on DCUM. Better to trigger an anonymous stranger than someone in your actual life.[/quote]

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