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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's hard to create a wedding registry when you have enough money to buy whatever you need already. Fancy sheets? Got it. Keurig machine-got it, gift card to wine shop-got it.

Younger couples who get married need a registry more than older couples.

Plus, you can still give a gift of your choice, a gift card or cash. I rather get $50 or $100 or whatever amount you spend, even $25 instead of a coffee maker that I don't need, or more satin sheets.

Ask her what she wants. [b]Or just give $100 fresh cash. 1 piece, not a bunch of $20s or $10s. [/b]

It's like creating a baby shower registry. So much pressure from friends to create one because they don't know what to buy so I created one. I don't need half of the stuff on there but they said add this, add that. My favorite gifts were 3 months worth of diapers and wipes. [/quote]

Cultural differences are so interesting—giving someone actual cash for a wedding used to be considered crass. Even showing up to a wedding with a gift in hand was frowned upon; gifts were sent before the wedding to their home. [/quote]

According to whom?  Is it regional?  I know some families that are cash only, but no one judges either way, it is just the way it is.  No one comments on it. DH and I did not want cash or gifts.  DH and I paid for our own wedding and honeymoon.

I ask because when DH and I married, we lived in a 900 SF condo and literally needed nothing, nor did we want anything.  A certain family member (not my side) threw a fit, so we were guilted in registering for things we had no room for. Literally, no room - especially for gadgets. DH and I enjoy/ed cooking together, but between his place and mine, we had everything we needed - we didn't need anything fancy, and we made meals that we both enjoyed - imagine that.

We did not need linens or towels or cookware or anything else that some random might firmly believe we "need/ed", because they thought DH and I were still ten years old, did not have our own jobs and careers and lives, and could not make our own adult decisions. It was the most ridiculous thing I had seen.  We had decorated our small condo slowly and sparsely, on the cheap, and it made us perfectly happy.  A condo full of "stuff" that someone else thinks we "need"? Not so much. We appreciated the thought and presume good intentions, but for people to show up with a smile and enjoy our special day, and be pleasant and nonjudgmental, meant so much more.

We did need one thing - we needed a camcorder (we married before iPhones), so if someone gave us theirs to borrow (for one week only, is what we needed), that would have been the best gift of all.  One thing that shocked me over the years were that those who were most harsh (REALLY meanly harsh and relentless) about what DH did (or did not do) are those that inevitably did what they were criticizing, way back when. Funny.  
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