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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is so hard to be a one and done family publicly, when you know that privately all you ever wanted and tried for (and nearly broke your body and savings for) was for a second child. And you know that people out there are either judging you as selfish for choosing to have only one, or looking down at you with pity you for (correctly) assuming you can’t have another. When your beloved only child cries on a the snow day because all they want is a sibling, posts like OP’s really twist that knife. [/quote]

Wow, dramatic much?  I have an only and not by choice.  I don’t hide the fact that we wanted more and I don’t think anyone looks down at me with pity.  Don’t you have neighbors?  Make the best of it because your attitude may be rubbing off on your child.  Mine loves being an only.[/quote]

Sigh, let's all take a deep breath here. My only not by choice also loves being an only, and no I don't think anyone looks down at us with pity either. But it is harder for some to let go of the infertility PTSD and ignore comments like the OP's. Kindly, original PP, the immediate PP is correct that you seem to be projecting and your attitude may be impacting your child more than you realize. People do judge families with 1, but they also judge families with 3+ kids. You can't make those people or OP happy, so ignore them and be proactive with organizing playdates for your child. As you can see from the replies, most sane families are happy to have their kids get together with friends as long as their schedule allows. Be the mom that hosts all of the kids (if you can!) and hopefully your child will see the positive in being able to spend the day with the friends of their choosing. By choice or not, every family structure has silver linings if you look for them. [/quote]

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