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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Serious question: is there any research showing that gentle parenting works? OP please let go of thinking you have to parent this way and give yourself the freedom to figure out what works for you and your family.[/quote]

Gentle parenting is a form of authoritative parenting.  Authoritative parenting has been shown with superior outcomes in studies.

https://parentingscience.com/authoritative-parenting-style/

That being said it does require a lot of self-regulation from  parents, something the OP seems to be lacking.  It is of course easier to be authoritarian or permissive neither of which is associated with as positive outcomes.  (Neglectful parenting has the worst outcomes according to studies.)  https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6323136/#:~:text=This%20work%20consistently%20demonstrated%20that,of%20neglectful%20parents%20were%20poorest.
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I disagree. Gentle parenting is not authoritative. Gentle parenting is where kids and parents are on the same level. Authoritative means that the parents are in charge. Gentle parenting is permissive with an emphasis on feelings and emotions. Kids are basically little adults who get to have autonomy and to make decisions too.

Don't like your house being a disaster? Gentle parenting says that this is just a season of life that parent *chose*. It's more important that your kids feel loved, nurtured and having fun than for you to be a nag and have a clean home. You aren't supposed to yell, nag, have consequences. Kids naturally just learn to pick up and be part of the family unit. I think that this actually works for some kids. It would likely have worked on me. My parents were okay with spanking but I only remember being spanked once in my life. I just mostly did what I was supposed to do and liked doing chores.[/quote]

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