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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm in an open marriage. I've been doing this for twenty years. I don't relate to this. I accept that at some point my kids may find out but I'm trying a lot harder to avoid it. To the extent that it doesn't occur to anyone that I might be doing this because I'm a mother, great. I'm not asking for wider cultural validation, I'm not proselytizing, I just want to be left alone.[/quote]

Hate to break it to you, but your kids will find out and probably already know unless they’re toddlers. It’s not a matter of if, it’s a question of when and how. I’m the kid, my sister and I always knew and it messed both of us up emotionally.[/quote]

When I was in grad school thirty years ago, a few of my classmates talked about their parents' open marriages. So it's always been around. 
And yeah, they were all pretty miserable about it. [/quote]

I know a couple that got into this stuff and it didn’t pan out well. The guy got divorced and remarried someone who was all about swinging/polyamory and being the hot thing in the room. His kid, though, did not like the situation and turned on them. He did not take on the lifestyle himself— my sense is he was rebooted by his parent’s behavior. I’m guessing having all of these people walking in and out of his life was too much. In fact, based on the story, his own marriage lasted a lot longer than dad’s.  I do believe you can truly love more than one person, but maybe in sone cases, there’s quite a bit of narcissism at the core of it all.

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